I was listening to a speaker that I really enjoy, Michael Ramsden. Search him on YouTube, he's great. Anyhow, he made some comments that really resonated with me. He talked about how we are to love each other. He talked about how when your wife asks you "Why do you love me?" There is only one answer.
If you answer, "Because of how pretty you are... or your great sense of humour... or because you are giving... " These are all lovely attributes but they still have to do with what that person has to offer, not what you have to give. He said, the right answer is, "Because I do."
This really set me back on my heals. For years, in our most private moments, I would ask Wes. Why do you love me? And he would say, because I do.
I always felt that he wasn't digging deep enough. That he wasn't really thinking about all the things I do for him.
In that moment I realized that I was privileged to have a life partner who intuitively loves me the way God wants him to. He loves me the way God loves me, not because of what I do or who I am, but because he does. God loves us unconditionally! Truly. He loves us as we are, who we are because he is love.
Michael's thoughts caused me to see my husband a bit of a fuller light and for that I am truly thankful.